How to help someone who has drunk too much
How to spot the signs that a friend might be drinking too much, and ways you can help them.
If you and your friends choose to drink alcohol, all of this can be avoided if you follow the UK Chief Medical Officers' low risk drinking guidelines. We spoke to medical experts to find out how you can:
Early signs that a friend might be drinking too much include their speech becoming slurred and being unsteady on their feet. This is because as alcohol is a depressant it slows down the brain and affects the body’s responses.
Dr Sarah Jarvis, a London-based GP, and member of Drinkaware’s Medical Advisory Panel, says facial flushing is also a good early indicator that someone is drinking a lot. She adds: “The most noticeable sign that someone is becoming intoxicated is lowered inhibitions. A quiet person will become loud, and a loud person even louder.”
Look around you and there might be physical evidence that your friend is drinking too much such as a growing number of bottles and glasses. This could be something you mention to them so they’re aware of how much they’re drinking. Don’t be fooled into thinking they’re okay just because they’ve had the same number of drinks as you. How much alcohol someone’s body can drink depends on lots of things, like how much they’ve eaten that day, their general health, size and gender and how they’re feeling. Suggest to them you get some air together or a glass of water.
The degree to which someone’s speech and coordination is affected by alcohol is perhaps the best indicator of how much they have drunk. So, you might notice that someone who has gone beyond the early stages of drinking too much begins to fall down, stagger and slur even more. Professor Paul Wallace says you might also see your friend becoming increasingly irrational as alcohol affects judgement. “They could behave differently, becoming involved in arguments or perhaps being inappropriately sexual towards somebody,” he says.
This is definitely the time when alarm bells should be ringing for you and where, if you haven’t already, step in and do what you can to stop your friend from drinking any more alcohol. The way you do this is really important.
Professor Wallace says it’s not about getting angry with your friend, but being supportive to make them realise why you’re concerned. “If your friend has drunk too much, they’re going to have lost their judgement and are likely to resent you if they think you’re trying to ruin their fun,” he says. “So, there’s an element of relying on your friendship to get you through.” Not acting at this stage might avoid this tricky conversation and situation – but could make things worse.
Alcohol poisoning occurs when a person drinks a toxic amount of alcohol, over a short period of time. Someone affected by alcohol poisoning is likely to:
“It’s very dangerous when someone has these symptoms and best to seek medical help, especially if your judgement is impaired and you’ve been drinking too,” says Professor Wallace.
Paramedic Phil Guthrie has been working for the London Ambulance Service for 14 years. He is often called out to treat young people who have been pre-drinking at home or ‘have drunk too much, for example during happy hour. Although, during some hours of Friday and Saturday night, more than one in five 999 calls is down to alcohol1. Phil says:
Someone who has experienced alcohol poisoning can make a full recovery. In the ambulance or at hospital, they’ll be put on a drip to hydrate them and monitored while their liver processes the alcohol. If they’re left to ‘sleep it off’ without being monitored by you or a medical professional, they could be at risk of choking on their own vomit or of hurting themselves during a seizure.
“It’s best to talk to your friends about how much you’re going to drink before the night begins so you know the things to look for which might mean you’ve drank too much,” says Professor Wallace. “A fun night with friends doesn’t have to be about having a lot to drink.”